Apps for Couples Perpetuate the Problem with Modern Dating

It seems that a new latest and greatest dating app hits the singles scene every week.

There are almost as many options for dating apps as there are seemingly limitless options of potentials on the apps themselves.

The focus on the app-facilitated dating world, of course, has been on meeting other singles – whether that leads to a one-night stand, a friends with benefits situation, or (gasp) an actual relationship. The thing is, that’s typically where the fusion of tech and “romance” ends.


The Internet is now abuzz with a new app that helps you maintain that relationship that you likely found on another app. And yes, it’s as sad as it sounds.

Enter Happy Couple, the app that promises to bring you “closet than ever,” supposedly helping you get to know your partner through a series of digital quizzes. Each day, both partners answers five different questions for their significant other (SO) that span six different topics. The 1200 different quizzes ask questions on everything from how their partner keeps track of their daily tasks to their thoughts on monogamy and what they like to do post-sex.

In other words, the app confirms that we’ve lost the ability to hold a conversation. So, basically, it allows you to be even less connected to your partner in real, physical life. Not to mention, it decreases our dwindling ability to think for ourselves without the help of technology. I’m sure most of us could come up with more colourful questions ourselves anyway.

In my opinion, apps like Happy Couple only perpetuate what’s wrong with modern relationships (if we’re lucky enough to make it to the “in a relationship” stage in the first place). As a telling new article on what’s wrong with the scene highlights , we have less of a need to spend physical time with our SOs thanks to text messages, video messaging, Snapchat, and Bitmoji (as much as I love Bitmoji).

The majority of apps for couples only accelerate this disconnect at a time when laying in bed together on cell phones has become more common than talking or cuddling. Happy Couple isn’t the only app that’s designed to further digitalize your relationship. TheIceBreak app employs a similar idea. There’s also 69 Places, which suggests different places for you and your SO to get it on Oh, and lets not forget about Spreadsheets, which offers statistical feedback on your performance in the bedroom.

That said, there are some couple-related apps that do indeed serve practical purposes. For example, Simply Us offers a platform to sync calendars and to-do lists with your SO. Another that I don’t have a problem with is Fix a Fight, which is designed to help couples recover from a major blowout at a time when both people may in fact need their physical distance. Consider it like free couples therapy. Finally, Between offers a special location for you and your SO to exchange and store photos, cute text messages, voice messages, and stickers.

If I were to design a dating app, the focus would be on bringing back the beauty of dating and falling in love the old-fashioned way. You know, the ever-absent form of organic dating that nobody seems to know how to do anymore. It would do things like offer the best places in the city for a disconnected picnic, send you and your partner on a romantic scavenger hunt throughout your city, and even (most effectively) shut your phone off for hours at a time so that you can interact with your SO free of digital distractions.

Ok, I’m on it.