This guy is pretty much the worst.
In case you’ve somehow missed it, Julien Blanc has been making his way across the globe promoting himself as a dating coach.
Only problem: he’s selling sexual violence towards women as the key to success.
This is an actual hashtag he used: #ChokingGirlsAroundTheWorld
Like, Blanc thought about that, typed it out, looked at it, pressed tweet, and used it more than once. Wow.
After receiving a less than positive reception this month in Australia, a string of Blanc’s tour dates have been cancelled. But that hasn’t stopped Blanc from making his way to Japan and, if he has his way, North America in 2015.
To weigh in on this subject we went to a real dating coach to ask him what men really need to know to meet women. Here’s what Calgary-based young professional and Founder of the Social Man Project Myke Macapinlac had to say:
“To most single guys, meeting and connecting with other women is a priority.
That being said, there’s an abundance of information available online as to how you can go about achieving this goal. It gets pretty confusing if you don’t really know exactly what you’re looking for.
Nowadays, it’s very difficult to know what a ‘man’ really is. Unlike back in the tribal days, there’s no more right-of-passage before manhood. We’re bombarded by marketing messages from the media telling us what to wear, how we should look, and even what kind of relationships to be in. That’s why a lot of men are not only confused, but they also have a false sense of entitlement.
Being a man is not a label that helps you figure out which side of the bathroom to use; it’s an identity that you have to be responsible for.”
If you want my advice, here are a few simple tips that don’t involve a chokehold:
1. If you leave any woman you meet better than before you met them, you’ll eventually get what you want. No physical or emotional drama necessary here.
2. Success in dating and relationships come from knowing who you are, what you want to get out of life, and being fearless in expressing that to women. Your mindset should always be to give them value and become the best part of their day.
3. When you’re happy as you are, by yourself, that’s when you’ll attract quality partners. Your passion should always come first.
4. If a woman feels like you’re willing to walk away from the interaction, you’ll appear to be more attractive. Because you’re not willing to give up who you really are, women will respect you more.
5. Be careful who you get your dating advice from. Make sure it’s from someone who shares your core values. Whatever you do and however you go about it, it has to be in a way that’s congruent to who you are and respectful to others as well.”
If you want to learn more about why listening to Julian Blanc is not the answer, follow #Takedownjulienblanc.
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Cover image from Julien Blanc Facebook
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