Sure, it may be a little weird to hear someone you once thought you were going to marry is actually going to marry someone else – even if you’re so over that whole situation.
Especially if you’re currently single (by choice, obviously).
But the weird factor should wear off quickly to eventually reveal that your ex getting married is actually something to be happy about (and borderline grateful for).
Here’s why:
You Know You’re Never, Ever Getting Back Together
Especially if the two of you have remained friends, there’s always been that teeny, tiny chance that you’d end up together again – whether for the night or for the rest of your life. Now there definitely isn’t, so there’s no excuse not to fully move forward, and embrace and enjoy every moment of it.
You Want Them to Be Happy
Even if the two of you are no longer on speaking terms (sh$t happens), it’s not like you wish your ex (or anyone, for that matter) a lifetime of misery. If he/she has finally found someone who makes them happy, that’s a good thing. Seriously.
Their Problems Are No Longer Your Problems
Anyone who’s remained on good terms with an ex knows that he/she will remain that reliable someone who is always there and vice versa. This could designate him/her as the first person you call with a problem or to vent about a perceived injustice. Now that they’re getting married, there’s someone else there to listen to every bitch, whine, and complaint – you’re off the hook.
You Can Finally Part Ways With the Cards and Pictures of the Two of You
Most of us have accumulated a box of old photos and handwritten love letters (when such a thing still existed) from each long-term relationship we’ve had since high school. Though you may very well hold on to that box to entertain your grandchildren one day, you can at least store it far away from sight and mind. Those pictures will never be framed now, after all.
It Puts Your Relationship into Perspective
Once you see who he/she has selected as a life partner, it may offer more perspective as to why the two of you didn’t work out. You and their significant other could be polar opposites, after all. And if he/she is just like you, consider it a compliment.
Your Friends Will Finally Stop Suggesting You Get Back Together
Although your friends only want the best for you, it was getting pretty annoying the odd time they’d suggest you and your ex get back together, especially when they are the same ones who suggested the two of you break up. Now, they can focus on trying to set you up with a hot single co-worker instead.
It Makes Your Nights Out Better
It’s usually awkward to run into an ex during a night on the town. But it’s even more awkward if the said ex is single. Why? You may have to watch them hit on someone they have no idea you arrived with (they don’t know any new friends of yours after all), or – perhaps worse – the two of you may make an alcohol-fuelled decision to go home together, only to regret it in the morning. The presence of a spouse eliminates the potential of all of that. Not to mention, once the ex married they’ll inevitably hit the town less in the first place.
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