There’s a New Key to Healthy Relationships: Energy

We’ve all come across those people who we just don’t vibe with for one reason or another. And then there are those we connect with immediately, whose calm or positive energy uplift us.

When it comes to relationships with friends and significant others, one of the key but often overlooked determinants of compatibility is our energy.

And science has confirmed that energy is pretty much contagious.

In 2012, a biological research team at Bielefeld University made a groundbreaking discovery in showing that plants can draw an alternative source of energy from other plants. The research is thought to offer evidence that people draw energy from others in much the same way.



Published in the online journal Nature Communications, members of a biological research team lead by Professor Dr. Olaf Kruse have confirmed that a plant, the green alga Chlamydomonas reinhardtii, not only engages in photosynthesis, but also has an alternative source of energy found in other plants.

Apparently, people are no different from plants, with our bodies acting as sponges to soak up our surrounding environment.

For instance, if you’re in a chaotic shopping mall with a particularly anxious friend, that energy is going to affect you (i.e. you may have to find the nearest spot in the food court that sells wine). Similarly, there’s a reason why you feel so good after a yoga class – both physically and mentally.

This is exactly why there are certain people who feel uncomfortable in specific group settings where there is a mix of energy and emotions, said psychologist and energy healer Dr. Olivia Bader-Lee.


As we all learned in grade school science class, plants create energy through photosynthesis. In a series of experiments, the researchers cultivated the microscopically small green alga species Chlamydomonas reinhardtii.

Scientists observed that when the single-cell plants were faced with a shortage of energy, they could draw from neighbouring vegetable cellulose instead.

The alga secretes enzymes that ‘digest’ the cellulose and breaks it down into smaller sugar components. These are transported into the cells and transformed into a source of energy so that the alga can continue to grow.

That discovery is kind of a big deal.

“This is the first time that such a behaviour has been confirmed in a vegetable organism,” says Professor Kruse. “That algae can digest cellulose contradicts every previous textbook. To a certain extent, what we are seeing is plants eating plants.”

The research doesn’t stop there.

The scientists are studying whether this mechanism can also be found in other types of alga, and their preliminary findings suggest that the answer is yes. Before too long, studies on plants and animals are expected to reveal similar affects on people.

“When energy studies become more advanced in the coming years, we will eventually see this translated to human beings as well,” stated Bader-Lee. “The human organism is very much like a plant, it draws needed energy to feed emotional states and this can essentially energize cells or cause increases in cortisol and catabolize cells depending on the emotional trigger.”


The findings suggest what seasoned yogis and spiritualists have known all along: humans can heal one another through the transfer of energy.

“Humans can absorb and heal through other humans, animals, and any part of nature. That’s why being around nature is often uplifting and energizing for so many people,” said Bader-Lee.

Of course, you don’t have to be a mindreader to pick up on the “vibe” of another person before they even say anything. There’s a real reason why someone’s bad vibe can kill your own. There’s also a reason why the positive people tend to attract other happy people, that the dramatic set gravitates to other drama queens, and that the perpetually anxious have friends who make them even more on edge.

Some people aren’t even aware of the negative or anxious energy they are putting into the universe – that’s the sad part.


In terms of relationships, an awareness of your own energy is essential. You could have all the ingredients for sustainability, but if your energy vibrations aren’t compatible with your SO, it can be a recipe for an argument-filled disaster. Unless you can figure out a way to sync your energy levels, when you vibrate on two different waves, that other person can end up sucking all the energy you have in you.

“Ideally, everyone just wants to be with someone who is calm and happy,” said a longtime married friend of mine not too long ago when I approached him for relationship advice.

Luckily, energy can change with a sense of personal growth, gratitude and awareness. Things like meditation, exercise and even diet can put you in a much better space vibration-wise.

That not only helps your own mood, but your relationship as well.

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