Dating Reality: No One is Ever ‘Too Busy” to See You

It’s time we were all honest with ourselves – and other people for that matter.

Unless you live in different continents, nobody you’re dating (or just beginning to ‘talk to’) is ever “too busy” to see you. Even if he or she happens to be the busiest person you know.

So stop trying to convince yourself otherwise.


Think about the last time you were in that stupid stage of lust. If you wanted to see the other person, the two of you would make it happen – even if that meant a 10-minute meet-up on a street corner at midnight, a spontaneous coffee break on a Tuesday afternoon, or – at very least – a Skype session once you were both home from busy days.

We’ve all been there.

Quick reminder: you’re never too busy for the things that are most important to you – and by this point, everyone should know how to identify what those are and prioritize.

If you want to see someone, you make sacrifices in other areas of your life; you cut your workout half an hour short, leave the bar hours before last call, get a few hours less sleep, or work all evening to have the next day off if you have to.

And none of that actually even feels like a sacrifice.

That’s why, if you’ve been dealing with unanswered text messages, coupled with an “I’m so busy” line, odds are that the other person is too busy – for you.

In addition to being “too busy,” here are the common excuses:

“I suck at texting.”

“Work is so crazy.”

“My phone wasn’t working.”

“I’m so tired lately.”

Of course, life is indeed crazier than ever these days. But Obama and Michelle find time for one another. So do Brad and Angelina. And it looks like Mark Zuckerberg and his wife Priscilla have a pretty solid relationship as well.

And they’re all busier than (most of) us.

Sure, there are times when schedules may simply not allow for a dinner date within a two-week time period. But that doesn’t mean you disappear all together if you’re into someone. You make contact.

When it comes to texting, you’ll find a way to make it happen, even if you have to sneak off to another room at an event to do so, multi-task in line at Starbucks, or during a mid-meeting bathroom break.

After all, you always find a way to answer texts from your mom or boss.

The bigger problem than buying into someone’s whole “too busy” excuse (and subsequently holding out hope of a looming summer romance) is the fact that most of us don’t have the balls to be honest with the other person in the first place.

So we turn to the good, old reliable, “too busy” excuse and hope they’ll get the message and that the situation will naturally start to fizzle. Either that, or we use it to keep them on the back burner in the event that the one we actually magically do have time for ends up not working out.

Either that, or we’re keeping them around in the event of a day where we’re too bored and lonely to care about the fact that we’re not into them.

Anyway, if you’re reading this, you’re clearly not too busy to text him or her back – and yes, we did just call you out on that.