This is How You Get Right Swiped on Bumble and Tinder

One date showed up drunk, ghosted and left one of my girlfriends with a shot-filled bill. Another took it upon himself to rest his hand on another friend’s leg five minutes into the date.

It’s safe to assume that these guys weren’t exactly pulling out chairs or opening car doors either.

It makes me wonder if the concept of being a gentleman has gone the way of the landline.

In conversations with some of my single and dating girlfriends – all of whom are proud supporters of the female empowerment movement and killing it in their respective careers – the general agreement is that chivalry is basically dead on the dating scene. Especially if said date is facilitated with the help of an app.

The thing is, modern dating apps almost promote this, reducing people to menu options and somehow giving both parties the permission to treat the other as such.

This is why the Lindeman Gentleman’s Collection teamed up with the dating app Bumble to come up with a few tips on how to be a damn gentleman when you’re dating online. Because – don’t shoot the messenger – some guys are in need of a major refresher.

If you’re single and looking to mingle like a true gent, you may want to continue reading.

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The Photo
First of all, an approachable, right swipe-worthy profile means that you need to be smart with your photo choice. The best strategy is to post two pictures of you alone, two with friends and family, and two photos with your hobbies.

This formula that Bumble calls the 2:2:2 ratio, will help you appear more well-rounded and, in turn, more dateable.

What won’t help your cause are those bathroom mirror selfies. According to the pros at Bumble (not that we need them to tell us this), the bathroom selfie sends the message that you’re in the market for a booty call.

The Bio
Don’t underestimate the power of a well-written bio. This is atool  to showcase your personality, so you won’t end up across from someone who has absolutely no interests in your passions and lifestyle. Not to mention, it’s easier to start a conversation with someone when you already have some key info to draw from.

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The Right Swipe
On the topic of having a conversation with someone, the first step is, of course, to match with him or her in the first place. As a rule of thumb, when in doubt, swipe right. As most of us social media savvy daters know, sometimes a profile can be a bad representation of someone.

Basically, don’t be so shallow.

Let’s not forget that dating apps are a numbers game – frequently swiping right swings the odds of finding love in your favour.

Bumble has also found other elements that make you a right swipe-worthy gentleman on the dating app when it comes to attracting the attention of the ladies on your radar.

And spoiler alert: it doesn’t involve the words “Netflix” or “chill.”

Seriously, few women want to be spoken to as a booty call, even if that’s what they’re ultimately looking for. Honestly, we would rather look at it as a date. In less obvious revelations, if you’re on the short side, fear not. Bumble found no correlation between the right height and right swipes.

What does matter though is your love for your canine friends and adventure.

Guys’ photos that include pictures of dogs are 15 per cent more likely to get a right swipe. Also right-swipe worthy (somewhat oddly) are profiles that use emojis – those are 2.5 times more likely to get a right swipe.

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The ladies also have a thing for aesthetics and a nicely edited and filtered photo – those get 30 per cent more right swipes. If you have an adventurous side, use it to your advantage on your profile. Women are 4.5 times more likely to swipe right on an active lifestyle photo than a mirror selfie but, we’ve already agreed to cut those out (right?).

Anyway, getting the right swipe is only a portion of the whole thing.

The most important thing is to not play games. Seriously, there is nothing classy about it. “Be intentional, and go after what (and who) you want. Don’t waste time worrying about waiting for the right time to message,” say the Bumble pros.

The best piece of wisdom I have heard among my dating app-loving friends – male and female – is to go into every experience as an opportunity to meet someone new and expand your network instead of looking for love. This keeps expectations low so if there isn’t a love connection, you don’t feel awkward.

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The folks at Gentleman’s Collection had a few more tips:

1. Meet for a first date before dinner, happy hour is great. This timing is casual and you won’t have to commit to a late night if nothing is clicking.

2. Trust your gut. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t feel bad about it. Move on and consider yourself lucky you’re not               invested.

3. Follow your own rule book. If you want to date multiple people at once until you are in a committed relationship, that’s your prerogative. If you like seeing one person at a time, that’s your call.

4. Remember to relax. Making it a super high-anxiety or stressful situation takes the fun out of dating and adds a pressure that nobody has time for when daily life offers enough as it is.

5. There’s no right or wrong to dating, it’s about what makes you feel happy and confident. Just be communicative.

Because really, chivalry and morals will never go out of style – even in the modern era.

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