We’ve all been there before: the grey area.
You know, when you’re not quite in a relationship, but you’re not quite single either?
It’s that label-free zone that’s either a precursor to a relationship, or all you’ll ever get from the other person.
Well, if you find yourself spending time asking (or thinking about asking) any of these questions, you might need to start considering just what you’re ‘in’ at the moment.
1. Do I text him/her to let them know I left something at their place?
Or would that be weird because we’ve hung out there three times already this week? I hope he/she doesn’t think that I did it on purpose and am getting too comfortable.
2. Should you call him/her and tell them about your bad day?
Or are we not at that point yet? Maybe I’ll just call mom, instead…
3. Should we stop using condoms?
Because I kind of want to, but that makes us exclusive. And that’s a whole different conversation all together.
4. Can I really get mad at him/her flirting with someone else at the club?
Because I’m pretty pissed off about it, but have to be cool because we’re technically not in a relationship, right?
5. Should I delete my Tinder account?
Because it really feels like we’re in a relationship. But – what if we’re not? Shouldn’t I keep my options open?
6. Should I tell my parents about him/her?
Or will that only get their marriage/baby hopes up and make it awkward if we’re no longer dating in a few months?
7. Is it weird that I haven’t heard from him/her all day?
I mean, not that he/she owes me anything…but it’s almost 11pm. If we were in a relationship, this would be weird. But, damn, we’re not…are we?
8. Will I ever hear from him/her again?
He/she could just stop talking to me at any point without an explanation. Maybe I should keep Tinder.
9. Should I bring him/her to this wedding?
I really don’t want to be the 9th wheel at the table of couples…but will he/she think it’s too relationship-y?
10. Can I ask him/her to help me move?
Or are we not at the favour-asking phase yet? If we are just “having fun,” then helping me move doesn’t really fall into that category…
11. Am I allowed to tell him/her that I hate their shoes?
Or are we not at that point yet, either?
12. Why does it have to be so awkward when people ask if we’re together?
Why do people even have to ask? And seriously, what do we say the next time it happens?
13. Do I get him/her a gift?
I mean, it is his/her birthday, but is that too much, too soon? Will I even be invited to the birthday party?
14. Who is that girl/guy on their Facebook?
If we were in a relationship, maybe I could ask who that girl/guy is who seems to like, comment on, and tag every picture of you. But if I ask now, you’ll just think I’m nuts.
15. Should I wait to plan my vacation time?
I want to make the most of my vacation time, but summer is still months away. What if things go really well and I’d rather take a vacation with him/her instead of the guys or ladies?
16. Should he/she really see me like this?
Because I’m either wasted, covered in sweat from the gym, or hungover as hell, and I don’t want to ruin any image he/she has of me in their head…yet.
17. Could I even see myself dating him/her, anyway?
Maybe I’m fine with this situation never materializing. I mean, could I really see myself marrying him/her?
18. Am I going to jinx this?Who am I kidding; he/she is amazing. I better not mess this one up. Time to define.
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